Looking back on it, I would have given up so much more in order to gain the things I was able to learn from this boot camp. I promise with a sincere heart that you will never regret doing this, since it is something I would recommend to any man that is looking for self-development and learning how to find a deeper place within our own minds and bodies. It was through this boot camp that I was able to go back home and have the most honest conversation with my mother that I had ever had. That was the kind of impact these coaches could bring into your life. You guys made 10 days in New York feel like a lifetime worth of knowledge and experiences that I will never forget.
The decision to go on this 10 day was never going to be an easy one. I knew it would help me as my close friend who had just completed Project Rockstar in the year that had just passed which explained to me changed his life and opened up an entirely different way of thinking to him. I had gotten out of a long relationship and was going out as frequent as I could but my interactions with women were never that positive. I had severe confidence issues and the inner game aspect that Andrew discussed over video chats really was selling me hard. I did not personally want to go to a game concentrated boot camp, the whole idea was strange to me but I had been really interested in personal self-development and this seemed like that right sort of crazy thing I should do at the time.
This price was a lot of money to me especially since I was right out of college 2 years and wasn’t making a ton of money. It would be a struggle after, and little did I know it would be incredibly worth it. I decided to take the plunge with a mindset that this was something that could really put me on the right path to be fulfilled in my life and have more positive interactions with women. The fact that my older brother would be joining me made this decision even more exciting. Two single brothers in New York City sounds like a good time to most people.
Landing in New York was a feeling of excitement and nervousness. I was about to push myself on every level and I was paying for it so I needed to play all out. Luckily, it was held at Andrews and Alex’s apartment so it was definitely a more intimate setting. Meeting all the guys for the first time was an interesting experience. It was guys from all over the world coming together for the same purpose, trying to better themselves and hoping that this could be about more than just interactions with women but that being an extreme plus. Andrew introduced the idea of the “container” within the group that basically meant it was a judgement free zone full of support as well as promising one another to be real with each other, and reveal intimate details of our lives that we wouldn’t even tell close friends. The concept seemed crazy to me but at the end of the day I was coming here not looking for the norm.
The first 3 days focused on outer game. The coaches did an amazing job explaining us different techniques as well as using concepts of safety and significance to demonstrate how the mind can play tricks on you before ever approaching a girl. The first night I was excited to use all these concepts but the issue is that when you are out there, it becomes real and not just some theoretical graph that demonstrates an experience. At times where I was not feeling positive, the coaches would immediately take notice and they would talk to me, and started bringing in these ideas that I could not look at going out the same way as I did back home, which was this big game mentality. I had to come from a place of wanting to have fun for myself and through that fun positive experience would happen with other people because you are no longer looking at them as though you want something. Through this general idea I started to learn that going out should always be fun no matter the outcome. I was also realizing that when you approach women; a lot of your cores beliefs come into question and mine were not strong.
Through the seminars as well as in field assistance I felt mine were beginning to develop over the next few days of going out and it was a feeling that I wanted to keep going out there and pushing my social boundaries that I had built so strong from years of misinformation and miscommunication.
It became extremely apparent over Days 4-8 why exactly I wanted to come on this 10 day in the first place. It was the dive into the inner game and each person has different demons haunting from their past. I had to put my full trust in the instructors and the teaching methods they introduced which was a leap of faith I was completely afraid to do but in reality am so glad that I did. I realized all the anger I had been carrying and how those emotions were creating my own worst nightmare of environments because I was personally not happy on the inside. I had come to get better with girls and was realizing my own relationship with my mother was preventing me from enjoying life, and it was all a story I had made up in my head. It was the type of realization that made this 10 day so special.
You come for something but find something completely different. It was also these inner game teaching methods that brought the group so much closer. Over the next couple days we would go from being complete strangers to forming this bond where though each person comes from a completely different lifestyle and set of daily struggles, yet we all connect on a personal level of not only struggling with women but struggling to love ourselves for who we are. The coaches demonstrated this concept to trust and to surrender into your body, rather than allowing the mind to take such control over everything I was doing.
One of my favorite parts about this time in which we were doing different techniques to open ourselves to a place of trust and surrender was that the instructors had tried them first. They come from such a deep background in which they have gone through these struggles themselves and they find ways to relate to you on a personal level and present the information at level where you feel it in your core, instead of the normal surface level teachings I was used to getting from the internet as well as therapists for inner game.
The final few days were shifted right back to outer game, but at this point it didn’t have the same feel to it that it had in the beginning. It instead took on a whole new form and the concept of masculinity that was presented was a lecture that will forever change my life. It was the first time that I had realized some of my relationships were toxic from the beginning and that I had lost my ability as a man to be able to find that primal feeling of a warrior that is so important to life. The last two nights were completely different for me in terms of my interactions with women.
The first night I found it increasingly easy to approach girls since I was finally coming from a place of having fun and I could tell immediately that my lightness and authenticity were received a lot better. I was finally enjoying conversations with different women and didn’t feel this overwhelming pressure to perform at a high level which I had felt so many times in the past. The last night was an interesting experience for me. I felt going into it that after all that I had learned and experienced that I was ready to go out and conquer every interaction. Instead I found myself at early points in the night not being in my body, and not allowing myself to have fun.
Why was I feeling like this? It was this moment when I realized all the inner teachings we had learned were so important because that inner core belief that I was missing which was that I wasn’t good enough was something that wouldn’t go away in a second and that this was a work in progress. I started to have fun again with the group, after all we had been through so much that the support and trust as well as with the coaches was so strong at this point that if you were down someone in the group would pick you up in a second just with a pat on the back or ridiculous dance move to laugh about later. My interactions with women were turning out more positive and I actually was able to experience my first one night stand that night which for me was completely out of my comfort zone since I had been in back to back relationships for that last 5 years so being able to feel those emotions was something I will never forget especially it happening around such a special group of people.
The final day was an integration period in which we would take 10 days that had completely changed our lives and find a way to put into practice into our daily lifestyles. The coaches were a huge help again offering nutritional advice as well daily routines to follow in order to prevent you from failing back into the negative mindsets that were the reason you had come on the 10 day. Honestly speaking, if you are considering doing this program then you should stop thinking about it and take the plunge.
Looking back on it, I would have given up so much more in order to gain the things I was able to learn from this boot camp. I promise with a sincere heart that you will never regret doing this, since it is something I would recommend to any man that is looking for self-development and learning how to find a deeper place within our own minds and bodies. It was through this boot camp that I was able to go back home and have the most honest conversation with my mother that I had ever had. That was the kind of impact these coaches could bring into your life. I thank you Andrew, Alex, Blake, and Tanner. You guys made 10 days in New York feel like a lifetime worth of knowledge and experiences that I will never forget.